Kabalikat Civicom Global

    Among those most often mentioned as causes of dislike were selfishness, deceit, snobbishness, and affectation. All of these are subject to correction when their existence is known to the individual. Cason collected 21,000 examples of annoyances experienced by 659 people of various ages and of both sexes. Slightly over half of these annoyances were caused by disagreeable and thoughtless habits of other people. In other words, most of the things we do that annoy people could be prevented by maintaining vigilance.

    The following typical sources of annoyance to others are from Cason's list. Every one is preventable.
    A person in an automobile I am driving telling me how to drive.
    A person coughing in my face.
    A person telling me to hurry. when I am already hurrying.
    A person continually criticizing something.
    A person belching.
    A person crowding in front of me instead of waiting his (or her) turn in line.
    A person bragging about himself (or herself).
    A person being a poor loser in a game.
    A person cheating in a game.
    A person continually talking about his (or her) illness.
    A person being inquisitive about my personal affairs.
    A person in conversation with me not paying attention.
    A person who is eating at the table criticizing the food.
    A hostess repeatedly urging me to take some food that I do not want.

    The student should not hastily conclude that effective personality can be won by the simple process of taking inventory of and striving to eliminate his annoying habits.  Such procedures are helpful if carried out intelligently, but they will not carry the entire load. Many of the things about us which make people dislike us result from conditions which we can control only with the help of another person who has an expert’s insight into the sources of human behavior.